If you find yourself going the wrong direction on the path of life.....check the map again ......you might have just missed a turn.
Self-Inflicted Limitation - Why We Achieve So Little So Often
All to often we make excuses for the things we don’t achieve in our lives. We would all like to be rich, popular, happy and have our egos stroked regularly. In fact our basic “lack of achievement” can be blamed on our childhood influences. From the day we are brought in to this world, we begin to create a road map, which for the most part will define a greater part of our lives. The direction of this road map can never be changed, only rerouted based on the influences around us. Our parents and friends through early childhood, define to a large degree the routing of our life road maps. Our parents, whether they meant to or not, influenced us with their insecurities, prejudices and most importantly their failures but does this mean we are destined to be like are parents? Not exactly! As we get older we experience other powerful influences such as friends, teachers, mentors and others whom alter our preconceived habits passed on from our parents. This is not to say that our parents can’t be a great influence in our lives, it simply means that we tend to absorb the most influence from them. A good example of this would be parents that become overly paranoid with the possibility of failure, perhaps because they started a family business and lost money. Growing up, watching the family business fail, could create a negative influence therefore changing direction on your life's road map.
Understanding the negative influences in our lives may be the master key to overcoming the fear of failure. In other words, our successes are a byproduct of our failures. As we experience failure, it gives us the knowledge, strength and wisdom necessary to succeed. The problem with failure is that it is exasperated through our influences and becomes a negative force creating the “subconscious fear of failure”. For example if a child is taking an exam in school and gets a failing grade, the threat of punishment and lack of positive reinforcement can enhance this negative experience, causing the child to fear exams through adulthood. So how can a situation such as this be handled without allowing failure to be an acceptable alternative. Perhaps you need to go further back on the child's road map, and identify the pattern of self-inflicted behavior. The child may be placing limitations on his own potential, through perceived fears of failure.
As adults our road map is defined through our childhood influences but stimulated through new life experience. Learning to accept and redefine failure as a building block for success, is the first step toward fulfillment. We can not turn back the clock and change our past but we can move forward and change the future. Although our road maps are strictly defined through life experiences, limiting our potential, remains a self-inflicted behavior only created by our perceived fears of failure.
Written By Brian Leslie Copyright 2007
How Do I Change My Life's Direction
Understanding how you got where you are, is the first step in understanding what you need to change. For each year of life, there were many miles traveled and various directions taken. In other words there were so many influences in your life, both positive and negative it is hard to identify each one individually. In fact it wasn't just one influence that brought you to where you are today, it was many. Like a math equation life consists of many dependent variables, which are those values that change as a consequence of changes. Similar to a path in life, one value or consequence is completely determined by another or several others. In math this is known as a function. Solving the unknown variable is not easy but very possible.
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